Sunday, July 19, 2009

Parshas Devarim

Not Everyone Can Rebuke

Devarim 1:1 "These are the words that Moshe spoke…in the wilderness, in the plain, opposite the Red Sea, between Paran and Tophel and Lavan…"

The start of the book of Devarim contains word of rebuke for the children of Israel by their beloved Rebbe, Moshe Rabbeinu. However, the words of reproof were not overt. Rashi explains that Moshe only mentioned the names of the places where they had angered Hashem, rather than detailing the events that took place there. Moshe employed subtlety in order to preserve the dignity of the Jewish nation. This teaches us that it requires special skill to effectively rebuke a fellow Jew.

Now its true that rebuke is a very great thing. It is incumbent upon us all to admonish our fellow Jew when he does not behave correctly. The Torah has accordingly instructed us (Vayikra 19:17): “You shall surely rebuke your fellow Jew”. However, not everyone is ‘cut out’ for the job. Rabbi Akiva (Arachin 16b) declared “I would be most surprised if there is anyone in this generation that knows how to effectively reprimand his fellow Jew”. It goes without saying that Rabbi Akiva would have held this opinion in our times.

If a person does not possess the skill to admonish, it can cause serious damage. It’s not just that his rebuke will be ineffective. Rather, he causes a stench of the very neshamos/souls of the intended recipients of his reproach. His admonishment awakens the “bad smell” of the other person’s bad deeds and faulty middos/character traits. This is akin to something that possesses a bad smell, but is lying at rest. As long as the item is not moved, one cannot sense the smell. However, a mere shift is enough to cause the stench to be felt.
Similarly, someone unskilled in rebuke ‘moves’ and awakens the bad smell of the other’s bad deeds and faulty middos, causing the people to “stench”. This causes their neshamos to weaken, severing the bounty from all the Heavenly worlds that depend on these very neshamos. For Chazal tell us that the neshamah mainly derives its sustenance from smell. (This transpires from an investigation into the source verse for the blessing over fragrance. They derive the blessing from (Psalms 150) “Every neshamah will praise You”, concluding that smell is the only thing in this world that the neshamah alone, not the body, enjoys). Consequently, when someone rebukes people inappropriately, he causes them to stench, so to speak. This causes a corresponding weakening in the neshamah that is sustained through smell, severing the bounty from all the Heavenly worlds that are dependant on these people.

The opposite is true of someone that has the skill to effectively reprove people. Through appropriate admonishment, he actually gives or adds to the “good fragrance” of the neshamah. For in truth, all rebuke must be related to that of Moshe Rabbeinu. Moshe reproved the Jewish People over the incident of the golden calf, giving them a “pleasant fragrance” alluded to in (Song of Songs 1:12): ‘My nard gives fragrance’: It does not say that the fragrance of the Jewish people departed – rather it was given, as Rashi explains there on that verse, from the words of Chazal (Shabbos 88b). Moshe’s rebuke over the golden calf imparted a “pleasant fragrance” to the Jewish people an aspect of mezona denishmata/food for the soul. For, as mentioned, the main sustenance of the neshamah is by way of smell; the voice of one skilled in rebuke imparts a good fragrance to neshamos, related to mezona denishmata.

Likutei Moharan Tinyana 8:1

2) Find Your Good Points!

Devarim 1:1 "These are the words that Moshe spoke…"

The fundamental of rebuke must stem from an aspect of the shir shel chessed/song of loving-kindness. This means that the rebuke must turn towards chessed/loving-kindness in its aspect of “azamrah lei’lokei be’odee” (“I will sing to My G-d as long as I live”), as Rebbe Nachman writes in Likutei Moharan 282.
The intent is that every one of us must find, both in ourselves and in our fellow, some merit and good point, as hinted in the verse (Psalms 37:10): “And in a little while – and there is no wicked one…” This actually puts the person into the merit side of the heavenly scales, meriting repenting.
Even if someone’s intent is just self-reproof, nevertheless he must be very careful how he does it and not get depressed by his own harsh words. Remembering his evil deeds can weaken his mind and cause utter dejection, G-d forbid. Therefore, he must be careful to incline towards loving-kindness and, come what may, search well for his own good points.
He must chide himself with a chessed orientation, fortifying himself regarding Hashem, trusting in His enormous mercy. He must understand that the chessed of Hashem can overturn all his evil deeds into merits, even if he has been a very great sinner for an extended period of time. For the chassadim/kindnesses of Hashem are great: “For His mercies never end or get spent”, and “chessed and great redemption is with Hashem”

The rule is: A person must rebuke in a way that will cause fortification and arousal to Hashem, rather than in a way that weakens a person’s spirit, causing a further downward slide, G-d forbid. We only merit such rebuke through the tzaddikim of the generation, who are an aspect of Moshe Rabbeinu, meriting an aspect of shir shel chessed.

Orach Chaim Hilchos Tzitzis 5:7